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Narcissistic Abuse Healing
You’re not broken, your body has just been in survival mode for too long.
Why Narcissistic Abuse is Trauma & Why It Lives in the Body?
Narcissistic abuse isn’t always obvious from the outside. There are no visible bruises, yet the wounds run deep. It’s the confusion, the walking on eggshells, the constant self-doubt, and the silent erosion of who you are. This kind of abuse affects the nervous system profoundly because it isn’t just what happened, it’s how your body had to adapt in order to survive it.
Whether you’ve experienced gaslighting, coercive control, emotional manipulation, or long-term psychological harm, your nervous system has been shaped by it all. Hypervigilance, shutdown, dissociation, people-pleasing, emotional eating, chronic anxiety are not character flaws. These are survival responses. And they make sense.
Somatic Trauma Informed Coaching
Somatic Trauma Informed Coaching is not about reliving the past, it’s about gently helping your system feel safe enough to release what it’s been holding. Through embodied techniques, nervous system regulation, and compassionate coaching, we support your whole system to process safely and move forward, not by pushing through but by working with your body and your protective patterns.
This isn’t about digging into your story or pushing you to go faster than you’re ready for. It’s about listening to what your body is telling us and moving at the pace that feels safe.
Having completed an ICF and CPD Accredited Somatic Trauma Informed Coaching, which is Internal Family Systems (IFS) informed, meaning we acknowledge and work with the different parts of you that have developed to protect you along the way.
Having completed an ICF and CPD Accredited Somatic Trauma Informed Coaching, which is Internal Family Systems (IFS) informed, meaning we acknowledge and work with the different parts of you that have developed to protect you along the way.
Internal Family Systems (IFS)
IFS
IFS understands that we all have different ‘parts’ inside us, like the perfectionist, the inner critic, the overachiever, or the one that just wants to disappear.
These parts develop to keep us safe during times of stress, trauma, or emotional overwhelm. In the context of narcissistic abuse, these parts have often worked overtime, protecting you from harm, rejection, or abandonment.
Through Somatic Trauma Informed Coaching that is IFS Informed, these parts are not pushed away or judged. They’re heard, understood, and supported to soften.
The goal is not to fix you, because you are not broken, it’s to reconnect you to your Self, the calm, clear, compassionate presence within you that has never been broken.
Understanding Trauma Bonds
One of the most confusing and painful experiences for those recovering from narcissistic abuse is the trauma bond. Even when someone knows the relationship was harmful, a part of them may still feel deeply attached, hopeful, or responsible.
This is not weakness, it is a biological survival response. Trauma bonds are created through cycles of abuse, manipulation, and intermittent reinforcement, where the nervous system becomes stuck between fear and hope, pain and love.
Somatic Trauma Informed Coaching helps to untangle these deep-rooted bonds by working with the body’s attachment system and the parts that are still loyal to the person who caused harm.
These are often protective parts, trying to keep connection at any cost, because connection once felt like survival. This work helps those parts feel safe enough to begin releasing those ties, so you can reclaim clarity, boundaries, and a sense of freedom from within.
Parenting After Narcissistic Abuse
Parenting with a narcissist comes with its own layer of complexity. Whether you’re “trying” to co-parent with a narcissistic ex or trying to heal while raising emotionally healthy children, the pressure can feel overwhelming. It’s common to feel guilt, fear of repeating patterns, or confusion about how to set boundaries while staying regulated.
Somatic Trauma Informed Coaching provides a space where those challenges can be explored with compassion and practicality. By working with your nervous system and internal parts, you’ll learn how to hold boundaries without shutting down, manage triggers more effectively, and model emotional regulation for your children.
The aim isn’t perfect parenting, it’s present, grounded parenting, where your healing becomes a foundation for theirs.
Untangling Codependency
Codependency is another common pattern that often stems from early trauma and is frequently intensified through narcissistic relationships. It can look like over giving, people pleasing, difficulty saying no, and defining your worth through others' needs or emotions. These patterns are often driven by parts of the system that believe love must be earned through self-sacrifice.
Rather than trying to “fix” codependency through behaviour alone, Somatic Trauma Informed Coaching looks at what’s underneath, the nervous system responses and protective parts that are trying to keep you safe through connection. By working with those parts and building internal safety, it becomes possible to create healthier, more reciprocal relationships from a place of self-trust and internal stability.
Why Somatic Trauma Informed Coaching is Different In Healing
After Narcissistic Abuse?
Works with your nervous system, not just your thoughts so change becomes sustainable.
Is IFS-informed, using non-pathologising language and deep compassion for your parts.
Prioritises emotional and physical safety, always working within your window of tolerance.
Helps you understand and regulate your survival responses, like freeze, fawn, or shutdown.
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